One of the things that people often struggle with is their personal worth. I’m not talking about your monetary worth but your value as a person. Each of us has a certain value. Unfortunately many people have allowed their value to be determined by other people who use their own personal standards to determine value. Many times people value us, not for who we are, but for what we can do for them. They might value you on how well you do your job, or on what they can get from you or on how you benefit them in some way, instead of valuing you for your worth as an individual created in the image of God.
How other people value us also determines how we value ourselves. Just because we are human, we see our own significance in light of other people’s opinions of us. If we sense that other people approve of us our self-esteem is high, but if people don’t value us our self-esteem suffers. We tend to judge ourselves by how other people judge us.
We also judge ourselves by how well we perform. If we do something well (our job, raising kids, singing, etc ) we have a good sense of self-worth, but if we don’t perform well, we begin to doubt our personal value. Judging ourselves by how well we perform is also tied into how we perceive other people are looking at us. We want to perform in order to gain other people’s approval and recognition.
As Christians we need to make sure that we see our value, not in the approval of people or in how well we perform, but in how God looks at our life. God does not value you for what He can get from you nor in how well you perform (even for Him). God values you simply because He delights to do so. Matthew 6:26 says Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And the answer is yes, you are worth more to God than anything else in His creation and it is God’s delight simply to value you for who you are: a unique individual created in His image.
God also values you because you are one of His children (1 John 3:1). In the same way (and to an even greater degree) that a human father values his children, God values His children. As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him (Psalm 103:13). God places great value on you (shown by His compassion) simply because you belong to Him.
Don’t let someone else’s opinions determine your value. The only opinion that really counts is God’s. That’s the essence of Romans chapter fourteen. Life is to be lived for God alone (Romans 14:7-8), and it is to God alone that you will give an answer for your life (Romans 14:10-11). Make sure that what He thinks about you is more important than what people think about you.
And remember, you have great value to God, not because you perform well, but simply because He loves you.
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